Men are from Mars and women are from Venus! This is not only a title for John Gray’s best seller, but among many men, it is considered a fact. A new research conducted by Dental Care Plus Implant Centres UK, has proved that it is not difficult for martians to understand venetians.
It all starts with compliments. A spokesman for Dental Care Plus Implant Centres, which conducted the study, said: “Women are complex creatures, and men would be mistaken to think they couldn’t go wrong with a compliment.”
All of it boils down to the “weight” of the matter. According to the study in which around 2,000 men and women took part, the best way to please a woman is to mention her weight loss. Findings suggest ladies love it best when men say they look thinner than normal.
“In particular they (women) want to appear thin to everyone around them, so commenting on weight loss is a fine way to score brownie points,” the spokesman for the study said.
Although 43% of the girls are obsessed with their weight, a further four in 10 are the happiest when someone comments on their gorgeous smile. Fifth of girls thought a partner was calling them fat when they said they looked curvy. While 15% resented when a partner said their outfit was figure hugging, believing he was saying it was too tight.
The study advises men to avoid talking about how well a woman looks as she’ll think he’s saying she’s fat. According to Dr. Mary Jones Allan, a clinical psychiatrist in Boston, USA, said: “Women feel that if a man is overly complementing on the way they look, he is trying to make her feel better, thus avoiding the fact that she looks fat. Whereas other women end up thinking that men are hiding something from them, as they are easing their guilty conscience through compliments.”
The research disclosed that women do not like anyone making a reference to their ‘large features’ and are particularly unimpressed if someone says they are broad.
“Women are supposed to be the fairer sex, thereby they feel that they should be petite in form” Dr Allan told. “If a man says she has large features or broad, it is a definite no-no in any situation.”
Unfortunately for men, 36% women ended up in a bad mood because they misunderstood something which was supposed to be a compliment. Around 14% women misunderstood praise about their make-up, assuming they were wearing too much.
Other compliments guaranteed to put men in good books are the ones which focus on the way a woman smells, how nice her hair are, or the beautiful eyes she has.
“Women appear to love any compliments which suggest they are beautiful, and have good features – such as fantastic natural teeth, lips, hair or legs. But you could get into hot water for saying that someone looks like they have eaten well, or that they look quite broad around the shoulder” the spokesperson said.
Getting it wrong
The study suggests women like it when men say a dress or colour really suits them, and a third simply love to be told they look gorgeous.
“The study suggests women only get one compliment from their partners each day – and it is easy to understand why,” a spokesman for Dental Care Plus Implant Centres continued.
“Most men probably live in fear of getting it wrong, and don’t bother trying to be nice. Men just need to think more about how to deliver a compliment, so that it doesn’t get misunderstood. For example, women would love to hear that they have beautiful natural looking teeth, or an awesome smile, but might not be so keen for people to acknowledge obvious dental work or teeth whitening.”
“It is true that men need to think before they compliment their women, but if they are sincere in their compliments they can never go wrong”, Dr Allan said. “The French and Italian men are famous for their compliments as they give them with sincerity. There is a joke that a French man can get away by complimenting an ugly cat by the sincerity of his compliments.”
But the survey shows a whopping 87% men reckon they regularly compliment their partners – offering up to three daily.
When it comes to what men do not like to see in a woman, the biggest turn off, 38%, is food stuck between their teeth.
A further 37% don’t like women to over-do it on the fake tan, while 37% hate girls that wear too much make up.
A quarter of men polled don’t like gapped teeth as sported by celebrities such as Madonna and Vanessa Paradis
Top Ten Nicest Compliments
1. It look like you’ve lost weight
2. You have a nice smile
3. You smell nice
4. Nice hair
5. That dress really suits you
6. That colour really suits you
7. Love what you’re wearing
8. Your eyes are pretty
9. You look slim
10. You look gorgeous
Top Ten Worst Compliments
1. You look tired
2. You look under the weather
3. You look well
4. You have put some weight on
5. You look just like your dad / mum
6. You don’t look as bad as I thought
7. You’re not as stupid as you look
8. You look less tired today
9. You have very large features
10. You’re quite broad aren’t you
Source: Daily Mail